The Three Most Important Character Strengths for Excellent Learning



I have gigs as a substitute teacher in schools in the Helsinki metropolitan region and have noticed that both the world and schools are changing rapidly. ”It could be that the profession doesn’t even exist yet,” answers my 13-year-old son when I ask him what he dreams of becoming. He may well have hit the nail on the head. What kind of world will it be when they are adults? And what kinds of skills will they need in order to succeed?

It is certain that in the future schoolwork requires more than just cramming for tests. According to the latest research learning is closely linked to character and development. Developmental psychologists have found out that perseverance and self-regulation (self-control) are the skills that predict success at school even better than IQ.

Important strength with regards to learning is also empathy, or compassion. Compassion improves people’s relationships and helps us to get along with others. Research has found that experiencing and expressing compassion increases happiness and satisfaction.

A compassionate mind is strongly connected with improved learning.

Therefore, the study of self-knowledge or of, for instance, empathy skills, is nowadays considered to be an important guarantor of mental development and key to the achievement of a superior skill level.

Good news is that there are ways for a parent to help the child to improve these skills.

I had a chance to follow a fascinating new way of teaching in the classroom. A Finnish pioneering teacher with her colleagues have developed new ways to encounter children. I saw how child’s perseverance can be strengthen in practice. This visit to school changed my interaction with my child for I realized that perseverance, self-regulation and courage are skills that can be learned.

If you want to take a closer look at my visit to school and get the exercises developed especially for parents use, you are welcome to order my book by the link below.

This method works for children of all ages!

“See the Good” can be shipped worldwide. Available in paperback and eBook.

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Acting correctly demands skills

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I read Ross W Greene’s classic piece Lost at School and I was very inspired by his ideas. He writes that it’s easy for us to think that children act correctly and behave well if they just want to; that acting correctly and behaving well only depend on the desire to do so. However, that’s not the case. Children act correctly when they have sufficient skills to do so.

I find this revolutionary, because it obviously challenges the general attitude towards “troublemakers” and other “misfits”.

I was recommended to read Greene’s book by a teacher who teaches children with special needs. Kaisa Vuorinen had noticed that many of children with special needs have received so much negative feedback that we should change direction and start supporting what is positive in them. They certainly need strong guidance and someone to show them how to regulate their emotions and behavior. I had a chance to follow Vuorinen’s teaching in the classroom and saw in practice how she works with children. She has developed with her colleagues new ways to encounter children. She used new ways to teach them skills to learn and regulate their behavior. I got a good lesson on how to strengthen child’s perseverance, self-control and courage among other things. This visit to school changed my interaction with my own child. I realized that perseverance, self-control and courage are skills that can be taught.

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If you want to take a closer look at my visit to school, you are welcome to download the reportage as a PDF-file by clicking the image of the book cover beside.